Exactly. That is why it is generally a bad idea to ask the opposing counsel for info on court rules and procedures.
One of three things could happen: they could give the correct information, they could give no information and hope the pro se litigant messes up, or they could deliberately mislead the pro se litigant hoping that the litigant messes up. Two of those things are bad.
A wise pro se litigant asks the opposing attorney for advice, then strategizes based on the response received. Always be polite.
Correct response: You have a weak opponent. Use that to your advantage.
No information response: Your opponent isn't a moron. Make them look like one.
False information response: Your opponent needs a lesson. Provide them a free education.
There is no such thing as being nice or helpful in litigation. Your opponent wants to ruin your case. You must ruin their case. The best way to do that is by getting inside their head and causing them to doubt themselves. Shake their confidence. Plant the idea that, if they continue the fight, the price will be higher than they can or will pay.
Find dirt on your opponent and their attorney. Sprinkle it on the filings and correspondence you create. Make them angry, frustrated and unsure. Never cross the line into being creepy or criminal. Use internet/public information to your advantage. Always be polite.
"Thanks for your email Sally. I will take a few days to consider your client's position, then get back with you.
Also, is John Simpson your husband? I think he and I met when he was working at Junkco. As I recall, he was dating that young waitress with the blue hair. I'm glad he's with someone more stable now. Please say hello to him for me."
Look around for data. You'd be amazed at how many professionals do dumb things on social media. A young collection attorney in my state posts FB comments about her cases. She thinks nothing of calling defendants deadbeats, making fun of their defenses.
In every email or letter you send to an opponent, include something they would not want a court or jury to read. Plant seeds.